Welcome Back! The Self-Care Police is here! Just checking to see how you are doing!
Who did you connect with this week? Did you send a text or schedule a night out? I hope so!
Did Ruby’s flashback remind you of some not-so-far-off-time-in-past that makes you double over with laughter (at least the parts you can recall)? Though Ruby ‘never disappoints’ even at a young age, she has grown up some since her barroom-brawling days. Instead of pushing random cheating blonde girls out of the way, she advocates for her kids at school and uses her voice to support those she loves. Maybe she doesn’t walk around with her Ruby Red showing, but you can find her strutting in her heels with that same confidence as that girl on the dance floor missing a pocket. She may not drink as much or dance in public as often, but she holds true to who she is and what she stands for.
Change may be inevitable, but Ruby is still Ruby.
What about you? Who are you? What do you stand for? Would not-so-far-off-time-in-past-you recognize today-you? Is that a good thing or not?
Last week, I asked you to get connected. Guess what…this week I’m asking you to connect to YOURSELF! Take some time to look at who you are & what you are about. No labels (i.e. mom, wife, partner, sister, employee, lover, hater, etc). Badass is the only exception – BADASS label is accepted.
Take a few minutes each day or if some angel of mercy gives you a few hours to yourself, ABSOLUTELY do that! Stay in the moment and practice some mindfulness (what the hell is that you ask?)
Psychology Today defines Mindfulness as:
“Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention to the present. This state encompasses observing one’s thoughts and feelings without judging them as good or bad. To live mindfully is to live in the moment and reawaken oneself to the present, rather than dwelling on the past or anticipating the future. Mindfulness can also be a healthy way to identify and manage latent emotions that are causing problems in personal or professional relationships.” (www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/mindfulness)
Use a calming app.
Journal in a cute notebook.
Sit on the porch and watch the leaves change.
Close your eyes with your legs wrapped in a constrained manner and mediate like an ancient monk.
Just take a moment to be quiet and get to know yourself. Leave your gavel and robe out of this – no judgement! Connect with yourself and figure out what you like and don’t like. What makes you excited and sad. What gives you fire in your belly and what causes pain in your heart. Figure out who you are so you can love you for you. That is the most important connection to make! Have a great week!